There is no way around it, being a single mum is one of the most challenging roles a woman can be faced with. Not only are we juggling household responsibilities, battling with our changing bodies, and often being the only one bring in money to the household, we are also tasked with nurturing our children’s abilities, happiness and confidence in themselves. Unfortuntely, as much as we may love being a mother, the journey can sometimes leave us feeling overwhelmed and drained. And in the midst of it all, we often neglect our own needs and our confidence in ourselves and our own abilities drop. So how can we build unshakeable confidence as a single mum so we can get back to being our very best and most authentic selves?
Consider Why You Have Low Self Confidence As A single Mum?
Before you can begin building self confidence and start living authentically and happy again, you must get to the bottom of why you are lacking in confidence.
There can be so many reasons for this especially for single mums, and many ways we may be feeling a lack of confidence. As I have stated above we often have so many things going on in our lives and resting on our shoulders.
You may be feeling a lack of confidence in your body, your abilities as a mum, your capability in your job. Wherever you are feeling low in confidence, the first step to combating it is to look into the why.
Has your lack of confidence stemmed from childhood? Has it come about from toxic media culture? Or maybe you have suffered from some form of abuse that has made you feel less than confident.
Healing Your Mind, Body And Soul To Build Confidence
Whatever your reasoning for why you are suffering from low confidence, there is a way to build yourself back up and begin feeling more confident in yourself again and what I can tell you is that it takes a holistic aproach. We have to work on our mind, body and soul to be able to fully get to the root of the issues, clear out any environments or issues that are currently affecting us and figure out what really lights up our soul.
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Mind: Rewire Your Limiting Beliefs
Confidence really does begin in the mind. As a single mother, it’s easy to fall into the awful trap of self-doubt and negative self-talk. You may find yourself questioning your abilities as a mother or as an emplyee as your attention is often scattered. Or you can feel inadequate compared to others, such as those who are traveling the motherhood path witha partner to support them, or maybe your comparing your post-partum body to the airbrushed celebrities and influencers. However, it’s essential to recognize that these thoughts are merely beliefs – they are not truths!
To build confidence in your mind, it is good to start by identifying and challenging these limiting beliefs by asking yourself good questions.
So, you could start by asking yourself these two questions:
What evidence do I have to support this belief? The chances are that your brain will come up with many things that it considers evidence. So if you are telling yourself that you are not a good enough mother, then your brain may provide evidence of that by telling you that you work too much, your leaving your child in daycare to be looked after by someone else. Or that you lost your temper when little Billy was asking a million and one questions at 5am when his little sister had given you a whole 2 hours sleep the night before. Or maybe when you look in the mirror you are telling yourself how gross you are and how no one will love you now your belly wobbles and you have stretchmarks!
Is there a more empowering perspective I can adopt? By reframing negative thoughts into positive ones, you can gradually rewire your mind for confidence and self-assurance. “I am working hard right now to provide my child with everything they need.”, “I am being the best Mother I can be right now and I am doing it by myself.” Or “My body has grown and birthed a whole human being, how amazing is that!”
You can also begin Practicing daily affirmations such as “I am capable and deserving of love” or “I trust myself to handle whatever comes my way.” Over time, these affirmations will become ingrained in your subconscious, boosting your confidence and resilience.
Body: Make Self-Care A Priority
How can you be the best version of yourself if you are not taking care of your body as though you love it? Taking care of your physical health often takes a backseat for single mums as for some reason we just do not see our own health, our own bodies as needing the same amount of love and care as others. However, neglecting your body can take a toll on your confidence and overall well-being.
Prioritize self-care practices that nourish both your body and soul. Set aside time each day for activities that make you feel good, whether it’s going for a walk in nature, practicing yoga, or indulging in a relaxing bath. Remember, self-care is far from selfish – it’s essential for replenishing your energy and maintaining a positive mindset.
Self-care goes far beyond bubble baths and spa days. it is so important that you pay attention to your diet and exercise routine. Show your body some love by feeding it with nutritious foods and establish a good exercise routine, even if it’s just a morning stroll, a short workout at home or a dance session with your kids. Taking care of your body not only boosts your confidence but also sets a positive example for your children.
Soul: Cultivate A State Of Inner Peace
Finding moments of inner peace and serenity is so essential for nurturing your soul. Find practices that connect you to your inner wisdom and spirituality, whether that is meditation, journaling, or spending time in nature.
Meditation is such a powerful tool for calming your mind and centering your thoughts. Set aside a few minutes each day to sit in silence, focusing on your breath and letting go of stress and worry. Guided Meditation is a great place to start if you are new to meditation. As you deepen your meditation practice, you’ll cultivate a sense of inner peace that will be sure to enhance your confidence and resilience.
Journaling is another fantastic way to nourish your soul and gain some clarity on your thoughts and emotions. Set aside a little bit of time each day to write down your thoughts, feelings, and aspirations for your future. Use journal prompts to explore topics such as gratitude, self-love, and personal growth. As you pour your heart out onto the pages, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and cultivate an amazing sense of empowerment.
Spending time in nature is also very healing for the soul. Take regular walks outdoors, immerse yourself in the beauty of the natural world and allow yourself to be completely present in the moment, soaking in the sights, sounds, and sensations around you. Nature has an amazing way of grounding us and reminding us of our interconnectedness with all living beings. it is also a great way to get out with the kids and get in thise steps, moving your body in a joyful way.
Conclusion: Embracing Confidence as a Single Mom
Building confidence in your mind, body, and soul as a single mom is not something to be taken lightly, it is essential so you can be the very best mother and woman that you can be. By rewiring your limiting beliefs, prioritizing self-care, and nurturing your soul, you can cultivate a deep sense of confidence and resilience that will enable you to reach your goals and be true to yourself!
Remember, you are capable, strong, and deserving of all the love and happiness the world has to offer. Embrace your journey as a single mom with confidence and courage, knowing that you are enough, just as you are.